What therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder.
In the resurrection they neither marry, nor are
given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. - Jesus.
- Marriage - 56
When our great Teacher came to him for baptism,
John was astounded. Reading his thoughts, Jesus added: "Suffer it to be so
now: for thus it becometh us to fulfil all righteousness." Jesus'
concessions (in certain cases) to material methods were for the advancement of
Marriage temporal 56
Marriage is the legal and moral provision for
generation among human kind. Until the spiritual creation is discerned intact,
is apprehended and understood, and His kingdom is come as in the vision of the
Apocalypse, - where the corporeal sense of creation was cast out, and its
spiritual sense was revealed from heaven, - marriage will continue, subject to
such moral regulations as will secure increasing virtue.
Fidelity required 56
Infidelity to the marriage covenant is the social
scourge of all races, "the pestilence that walketh in darkness, . . . the
destruction that wasteth at noonday." The commandment, "Thou shalt not
commit adultery," is no less imperative than the one, "Thou shalt not
Chastity is the cement of civilization and
progress. Without it there is no stability in society, and without it one cannot
attain the Science of Life.
Mental elements 57
Union of the masculine and feminine qualities
constitutes completeness. The masculine mind reaches a higher tone through
certain elements of the feminine, while the feminine mind gains courage and
strength through masculine qualities. These different elements conjoin naturally
with each other, and their true harmony is in spiritual oneness. Both sexes
should be loving, pure, tender, and strong. The attraction between native
qualities will be perpetual only as it is pure and true, bringing sweet seasons
of renewal like the returning spring.
Affection's demands 57
Beauty, wealth, or fame is incompetent to meet
the demands of the affections, and should never weigh against the better claims
of intellect, goodness, and virtue. Happiness is spiritual, born of Truth and
Love. It is unselfish; therefore it cannot exist alone, but requires all mankind
to share it.
Help and discipline 57
Human affection is not poured forth vainly, even
though it meet no return. Love enriches the nature, enlarging, purifying, and
elevating it. The wintry blasts of earth may uproot the flowers of affection,
and scatter them to the winds; but this severance of fleshly ties serves to
unite thought more closely to God, for Love supports the struggling heart until
it ceases to sigh over the world and begins to unfold its wings for heaven.
Marriage is unblest or blest, according to the
disappointments it involves or the hopes it fulfils. To happify existence by
constant intercourse with those adapted to elevate it, should be the motive of
society. Unity of spirit gives new pinions to joy, or else joy's drooping wings
trail in dust.
Chord and discord 58
Ill-arranged notes produce discord. Tones of the
human mind may be different, but they should be concordant in order to blend
properly. Unselfish ambition, noble life-motives, and purity, - these
constituents of thought, mingling, constitute individually and collectively true
happiness, strength, and permanence.
Mutual freedom 58
There is moral freedom in Soul. Never contract
the horizon of a worthy outlook by the selfish exaction of all another's time
and thoughts. With additional joys, benevolence should grow more diffusive. The
narrowness and jealousy, which would confine a wife or a husband forever within
four walls, will not promote the sweet interchange of confidence and love; but
on the other hand, a wandering desire for incessant amusement outside the home
circle is a poor augury for the happiness of wedlock. Home is the dearest spot
on earth, and it should be the centre, though not the boundary, of the
A useful suggestion 58
Said the peasant bride to her lover: "Two
eat no more together than they eat separately." This is a hint that a wife
ought not to court vulgar extravagance or stupid ease, because another supplies
her wants. Wealth may obviate the necessity for toil or the chance for
ill-nature in the marriage relation, but nothing can abolish the cares of
Differing duties 58
"She that is married careth . . . how she
may please her husband," says the Bible; and this is the pleasantest thing
to do. Matrimony should never be entered into without a full recognition of its
enduring obligations on both sides. There should be the most tender solicitude
for each other's happiness, and mutual attention and approbation should wait on
all the years of married life.
Mutual compromises will often maintain a compact
which might otherwise become unbearable. Man should not be required to
participate in all the annoyances and cares of domestic economy, nor should
woman be expected to understand political economy. Fulfilling the different
demands of their united spheres, their sympathies should blend in sweet
confidence and cheer, each partner sustaining the other, - thus hallowing the
union of interests and affections, in which the heart finds peace and home.
Trysting renewed 59
Tender words and unselfish care in what promotes
the welfare and happiness of your wife will prove more salutary in prolonging
her health and smiles than stolid indifference or jealousy. Husbands, hear this
and remember how slight a word or deed may renew the old trysting-times.
After marriage, it is too late to grumble over
incompatibility of disposition. A mutual understanding should exist before this
union and continue ever after, for deception is fatal to happiness.
Permanent obligation 59
The nuptial vow should never be annulled, so long
as its moral obligations are kept intact; but the frequency of divorce shows
that the sacredness of this relationship is losing its influence, and that fatal
mistakes are undermining its foundations. Separation never should take place,
and it never would, if both husband and wife were genuine Christian Scientists.
Science inevitably lifts one's being higher in the scale of harmony and
Permanent affection 60
Kindred tastes, motives, and aspirations are
necessary to the formation of a happy and permanent companionship. The beautiful
in character is also the good, welding indissolubly the links of affection. A
mother's affection cannot be weaned from her child, because the mother-love
includes purity and constancy, both of which are immortal. Therefore maternal
affection lives on under whatever difficulties.
From the logic of events we learn that
selfishness and impurity alone are fleeting, and that wisdom will ultimately put
asunder what she hath not joined together.
Centre for affections 60
Marriage should improve the human species,
becoming a barrier against vice, a protection to woman, strength to man, and a
centre for the affections. This, however, in a majority of cases, is not its
present tendency, and why? Because the education of the higher nature is
neglected, and other considerations, - passion, frivolous amusements, personal
adornment, display, and pride, - occupy thought.
Spiritual concord 60
An ill-attuned ear calls discord harmony, not
appreciating concord. So physical sense, not discerning the true happiness of
being, places it on a false basis. Science will correct the discord, and teach
us life's sweeter harmonies.
Soul has infinite resources with which to bless
mankind, and happiness would be more readily attained and would be more secure
in our keeping, if sought in Soul. Higher enjoyments alone can satisfy the
cravings of immortal man. We cannot circumscribe happiness within the limits of
personal sense. The senses confer no real enjoyment.
Ascendency of good 61
The good in human affections must have ascendency
over the evil and the spiritual over the animal, or happiness will never be won.
The attainment of this celestial condition would improve our progeny, diminish
crime, and give higher aims to ambition. Every valley of sin must be exalted,
and every mountain of selfishness be brought low, that the highway of our God
may be prepared in Science. The offspring of heavenly-minded parents inherit
more intellect, better balanced minds, and sounder constitutions.
Propensities inherited 61
If some fortuitous circumstance places promising
children in the arms of gross parents, often these beautiful children early
droop and die, like tropical flowers born amid Alpine snows. If perchance they
live to become parents in their turn, they may reproduce in their own helpless
little ones the grosser traits of their ancestors. What hope of happiness, what
noble ambition, can inspire the child who inherits propensities that must either
be overcome or reduce him to a loathsome wreck?
Is not the propagation of the human species a
greater responsibility, a more solemn charge, than the culture of your garden or
the raising of stock to increase your flocks and herds? Nothing unworthy of
perpetuity should be transmitted to children.
The formation of mortals must greatly improve to
advance mankind. The scientific morale of marriage is spiritual
unity. If the propagation of a higher human species is requisite to reach this
goal, then its material conditions can only be permitted for the purpose of
generating. The foetus must be kept mentally pure and the period of gestation
have the sanctity of virginity.
The entire education of children should be such
as to form habits of obedience to the moral and spiritual law, with which the
child can meet and master the belief in so-called physical laws, a belief which
Inheritance heeded 62
If parents create in their babes a desire for
incessant amusement, to be always fed, rocked, tossed, or talked to, those
parents should not, in after years, complain of their children's fretfulness or
frivolity, which the parents themselves have occasioned. Taking less
"thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink";
less thought "for your body what ye shall put on," will do much more
for the health of the rising generation than you dream. Children should be
allowed to remain children in knowledge, and should become men and women only
through growth in the understanding of man's higher nature.
The Mind creative 62
We must not attribute more and more intelligence
to matter, but less and less, if we would be wise and healthy. The divine Mind,
which forms the bud and blossom, will care for the human body, even as it
clothes the lily; but let no mortal interfere with God's government by thrusting
in the laws of erring, human concepts.
Superior law of Soul 62
The higher nature of man is not governed by the
lower; if it were, the order of wisdom would be reversed. Our false views of
life hide eternal harmony, and produce the ills of which we complain. Because
mortals believe in material laws and reject the Science of Mind, this does not
make materiality first and the superior law of Soul last. You would never think
that flannel was better for warding off pulmonary disease than the controlling
Mind, if you understood the Science of being.
Spiritual origin 63
In Science man is the offspring of Spirit. The
beautiful, good, and pure constitute his ancestry. His origin is not, like that
of mortals, in brute instinct, nor does he pass through material conditions
prior to reaching intelligence. Spirit is his primitive and ultimate source of
being; God is his Father, and Life is the law of his being.
The rights of woman 63
Civil law establishes very unfair differences
between the rights of the two sexes. Christian Science furnishes no precedent
for such injustice, and civilization mitigates it in some measure. Still, it is
a marvel why usage should accord woman less rights than does either Christian
Science or civilization.
Unfair discrimination 63
Our laws are not impartial, to say the least, in
their discrimination as to the person, property, and parental claims of the two
sexes. If the elective franchise for women will remedy the evil without
encouraging difficulties of greater magnitude, let us hope it will be granted. A
feasible as well as rational means of improvement at present is the elevation of
society in general and the achievement of a nobler race for legislation, - a
race having higher aims and motives.
If a dissolute husband deserts his wife,
certainly the wronged, and perchance impoverished, woman should be allowed to
collect her own wages, enter into business agreements, hold real estate, deposit
funds, and own her children free from interference.
Want of uniform justice is a crying evil caused
by the selfishness and inhumanity of man. Our forefathers exercised their faith
in the direction taught by the Apostle James, when he said: "Pure religion
and undefiled before God and the Father, is this, To visit the fatherless and
widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."
Benevolence hindered 64
Pride, envy, or jealousy seems on most occasions
to be the master of ceremonies, ruling out primitive Christianity. When a man
lends a helping hand to some noble woman, struggling alone with adversity, his
wife should not say, "It is never well to interfere with your neighbor's
business." A wife is sometimes debarred by a covetous domestic tyrant from
giving the ready aid her sympathy and charity would afford.
Progressive development 64
Marriage should signify a union of hearts.
Furthermore, the time cometh of which Jesus spake, when he declared that in the
resurrection there should be no more marrying nor giving in marriage, but man
would be as the angels. Then shall Soul rejoice in its own, in which passion has
no part. Then white-robed purity will unite in one person masculine wisdom and
feminine love, spiritual understanding and perpetual peace.
Until it is learned that God is the Father of
all, marriage will continue. Let not mortals permit a disregard of law which
might lead to a worse state of society than now exists. Honesty and virtue
ensure the stability of the marriage covenant. Spirit will ultimately claim its
own, - all that really is, - and the voices of physical sense will be forever
Blessing of Christ 65
Experience should be the school of virtue, and
human happiness should proceed from man's highest nature. May Christ, Truth, be
present at every bridal altar to turn the water into wine and to give to human
life an inspiration by which man's spiritual and eternal existence may be
Righteous foundations 65
If the foundations of human affection are
consistent with progress, they will be strong and enduring. Divorces should warn
the age of some fundamental error in the marriage state. The union of the sexes
suffers fearful discord. To gain Christian Science and its harmony, life should
be more metaphysically regarded.
Powerless promises 65
The broadcast powers of evil so conspicuous
to-day show themselves in the materialism and sensualism of the age, struggling
against the advancing spiritual era. Beholding the world's lack of Christianity
and the powerlessness of vows to make home happy, the human mind will at length
demand a higher affection.
Transition and reform 65
There will ensue a fermentation over this as over
many other reforms, until we get at last the clear straining of truth, and
impurity and error are left among the lees. The fermentation even of fluids is
not pleasant. An unsettled, transitional stage is never desirable on its own
account. Matrimony, which was once a fixed fact among us, must lose its present
slippery footing, and man must find permanence and peace in a more spiritual
The mental chemicalization, which has brought
conjugal infidelity to the surface, will assuredly throw off this evil, and
marriage will become purer when the scum is gone.
Thou art right, immortal Shakespeare, great poet
Sweet are the uses of adversity;
Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous,
Wears yet a precious jewel in his head.
Trials teach mortals not to lean on a material
staff, - a broken reed, which pierces the heart. We do not half remember this in
the sunshine of joy and prosperity. Sorrow is salutary. Through great
tribulation we enter the kingdom. Trials are proofs of God's care. Spiritual
development germinates not from seed sown in the soil of material hopes, but
when these decay, Love propagates anew the higher joys of Spirit, which have no
taint of earth. Each successive stage of experience unfolds new views of divine
goodness and love.
Amidst gratitude for conjugal felicity, it is
well to remember how fleeting are human joys. Amidst conjugal infelicity, it is
well to hope, pray, and wait patiently on divine wisdom to point out the path.
Husbands and wives should never separate if there
is no Christian demand for it. It is better to await the logic of events than
for a wife precipitately to leave her husband or for a husband to leave his
wife. If one is better than the other, as must always be the case, the other
pre-eminently needs good company. Socrates considered patience salutary under
such circumstances, making his Xantippe a discipline for his philosophy.
Sorrow has its reward. It never leaves us where
it found us. The furnace separates the gold from the dross that the precious
metal may be graven with the image of God. The cup our Father hath given, shall
we not drink it and learn the lessons He teaches?
Weathering the storm 67
When the ocean is stirred by a storm, then the
clouds lower, the wind shrieks through the tightened shrouds, and the waves lift
themselves into mountains. We ask the helmsman: "Do you know your course?
Can you steer safely amid the storm?" He answers bravely, but even the
dauntless seaman is not sure of his safety; nautical science is not equal to the
Science of Mind. Yet, acting up to his highest understanding, firm at the post
of duty, the mariner works on and awaits the issue. Thus should we deport
ourselves on the seething ocean of sorrow. Hoping and working, one should stick
to the wreck, until an irresistible propulsion precipitates his doom or sunshine
gladdens the troubled sea.
Spiritual power 67
The notion that animal natures can possibly give
force to character is too absurd for consideration, when we remember that
through spiritual ascendency our Lord and Master healed the sick, raised the
dead, and commanded even the winds and waves to obey him. Grace and Truth are
potent beyond all other means and methods.
The lack of spiritual power in the limited
demonstration of popular Christianity does not put to silence the labor of
centuries. Spiritual, not corporeal, consciousness is needed. Man delivered from
sin, disease, and death presents the true likeness or spiritual ideal.
Basis of true religion 67
Systems of religion and medicine treat of
physical pains and pleasures, but Jesus rebuked the suffering from any such
cause or effect. The epoch approaches when the understanding of the truth of
being will be the basis of true religion. At present mortals progress slowly for
fear of being thought ridiculous. They are slaves to fashion, pride, and sense.
Sometime we shall learn how Spirit, the great architect, has created men and
women in Science. We ought to weary of the fleeting and false and to cherish
nothing which hinders our highest selfhood.
Jealousy is the grave of affection. The presence
of mistrust, where confidence is due, withers the flowers of Eden and scatters
love's petals to decay. Be not in haste to take the vow "until death do us
part." Consider its obligations, its responsibilities, its relations to
your growth and to your influence on other lives.
Insanity and agamogenesis 68
I never knew more than one individual who
believed in agamogenesis; she was unmarried, a lovely character, was suffering
from incipient insanity, and a Christian Scientist cured her. I have named her
case to individuals, when casting my bread upon the waters, and it may have
caused the good to ponder and the evil to hatch their silly innuendoes and lies,
since salutary causes sometimes incur these effects. The perpetuation of the
floral species by bud or cell-division is evident, but I discredit the belief
that agamogenesis applies to the human species.
God's creation intact 68
Christian Science presents unfoldment, not
accretion; it manifests no material growth from molecule to mind, but an
impartation of the divine Mind to man and the universe. Proportionately as human
generation ceases, the unbroken links of eternal, harmonious being will be
spiritually discerned; and man, not of the earth earthly but coexistent with
God, will appear. The scientific fact that man and the universe are evolved from
Spirit, and so are spiritual, is as fixed in divine Science as is the proof that
mortals gain the sense of health only as they lose the sense of sin and disease.
Mortals can never understand God's creation while believing that man is a
creator. God's children already created will be cognized only as man finds the
truth of being. Thus it is that the real, ideal man appears in proportion as the
false and material disappears. No longer to marry or to be "given in
marriage" neither closes man's continuity nor his sense of increasing
number in God's infinite plan. Spiritually to understand that there is but one
creator, God, unfolds all creation, confirms the Scriptures, brings the sweet
assurance of no parting, no pain, and of man deathless and perfect and eternal.
If Christian Scientists educate their own
offspring spiritually, they can educate others spiritually and not conflict with
the scientific sense of God's creation. Some day the child will ask his parent:
"Do you keep the First Commandment? Do you have one God and creator, or is
man a creator?" If the father replies, "God creates man through
man," the child may ask, "Do you teach that Spirit creates materially,
or do you declare that Spirit is infinite, therefore matter is out of the
question?" Jesus said, "The children of this world marry, and are
given in marriage: But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that
world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in
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